What did it take??
I can remember the first day I saw her. Not exact time and day like the movies but i can remember exactly what happened. I was asked to step into a training class to help with the product knowledge portion and walked into a class filled with young women. But out of all 14 girls that were in the class one stood out. Big Brown Eyes. Amazing Smile. Long Hair. Roller Coaster Curves.
Now even though a "relationship" didn't start from that very moment, when we did start pursuing one, I had a lot of work to do.
First I had to work up the nerve to ask her out. Which any guy can tell you is not the easiest thing to do. I had to figure out where to take her. (Somewhere nice to make an impression) I had to show her that I was a gentleman. Show her I could provide for her. Show her I could protect her. Show her that I met all or most of the criteria on her list so that I could have her on my arm. I had to be the one to make the phone calls. Send the text messages. Once I pushed through that strong outer layer, I then had to keep it up.
Three years into the relationship, things haven't changed much. I still have to provide the money for us to go out. (Not complaining, just saying) It still has to be some place nice. (even though we've been to most of them) I still have to be a gentlemen, still have to protect, and hit her up throughout the day to let her know that I was thinking about her.
Now in the grand scheme of it all, I know it's not a lot to ask... But the bigger question is, What is it that she has to do? (Don't worry, I'll wait)
Once a woman is being courted by a man, she doesn't have to do much. Accept the invitation to dinner and walks on the beach. Allow him to open the door for her. Be beautiful and hold a decent enough conversation to be asked out again. Wow. All that?! (Clearly Sarcasm at it's finest)
The guy, who often feels like a catch himself, has to do everything the woman does and more. And in the end, he's stuck trying to do the things that will keep her happy. Rubbing her feet, Taking her out, Making her feel special still are all a part of the game plan. And what is it that we are getting in return?? (Again, I'll wait)
I guess it's just human nature and the way things are in the world that the guy has to go all out to get this beautiful prize and after all that hard work, she might just be a lump of coal. All we are asking is that you meet us half way. Surprise us and try to pay the bill. (I won't let you but I'd appreciate the offer) Hit me up throughout the day just to see how i'm doing. (I promise i wont think you're sweating me) Apologize when you are wrong and do all the things we have to do to make it up to me. (I.E. Buy you flowers, talk about what I did wrong and go down and stay down until you're satisfied) Don't like it?? Let me know... It's just a thought!!
JayMaurice aka jDOTmaurice