Why We Cheat...
When I was 17 years of age I lost my virginity. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know thats not that young considering that I'm an inner city youth and all but that's when in finally had a chance to get some. The funnier part is that I actually cheated on a girl before I had sex. O_o So thinking back on it all I was actually being unfaithful before I was sexually active. One of the things that helped me be comfortable with cheating is that my mother (whom I love dearly) told me at a very young age that I shouldn't just have one girl...
That I should get more than one until I figure out which one was right for me. Fundamentally Broken... The question is always being asked, "Why did you cheat?" For women that question holds a massive amount of weight because at the very core of their flyness is confidence... And no matter how much she hates you for cheating on her, she hates you 20 million times worst for shaking her confidence. How could he cheat on ME? How could he want someone other than ME? Why did he cheat on ME? The problem with some of those questions is that the true answer is usually too simple for the user.
When women cheat, they usually do it out of lack... Lack of attention... Lack of intimacy... Lack of love... So when they decide to step out of their relationship, they do if after carefully evaluating the scenario. They wait until the relationship is in a down period and she has brought all issues to the table before she decides that the dude that has been flirting with her daily at work is going to finally get a shot. Unfortunately, the reason why men cheat is much more fundamental...
We cheat because we can and the opportunity presents itself. That's All!! (90 percent of the time) Not because you as a women wasn't loving enough... You're probably the best girl he's ever dated. Not because your sex isnt awesome... Because you are probably the biggest freak he knows. Not because the conversations that you and he had/have aren't the most stimulating part of any day... If that were the case, you would have never made it to girl friend status. It's because for some reason when a guy is with a girl and wants to be with her and only, the next five sexy girls you see, for whatever reason, want you. And one out of that five is NOT going to care about this girl that you love so much. She'll work around your schedule...
She'll accept her sideline time... She'll make it seem like she understands all the stress in trouble that a man goes through because she wants you to be comfortable... Then it happens and as a guy you feel horrible for cheating... But you feel worst because you know that if she found out, you would have no valid reason for cheating in the first place. Yeah, it's sad but true. At least that's the thought I had while having this conversation... Got a difference of opinion?? Let me know...
JayMaurice aka jDOTmaurice@twitter.com
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